So you’ve just moved into your perfect home…but your neighbors aren’t so great. A happy neighborhood is essential to a thriving home life, so we’ve put together these tips on dealing with difficult neighbors to help you achieve it.
Here they are:
1. Get to know them.
One of the best ways to master dealing with difficult neighbors is to preemptively cut off potential issues by building a relationship with those who live around you. It’s easier to communicate with people that you consider friends.
2. Head off problems before they’re problems.
If your neighbor’s late-night antics consistently annoy you, don’t let it build up! Politely speak with your neighbor early on and see if you can create a compromise. This is also a good opportunity to ask if there is anything you can do to be a better neighbor.
3. Stay Positive.
This one can be tough when you’re dealing with difficult neighbors, but it’s essential. Think about it: if someone is rude to you, do you really feel committed to helping them? Maintaining a positive outlook is more likely to get you the results you want.
4. Don't accuse.
When letting your neighbor know about a problem, it’s important to focus on how the issue affects you instead of how what they’re doing is wrong. For example, instead of saying “You need to stop parking in front of my house because it’s not your property,” you can say, “When you park in front of my house, it blocks the mailbox and the mailman won’t deliver my mail.” By using “I” statements, you are more likely to reach a solution peacefully.
5. Don’t make assumptions.
Even if you are cordial with your neighbors, it is unlikely you know the actual motivations for their actions. Perhaps an unkempt lawn is the result of a death in the family, or the noise in the morning is because of a new stressful job. Dealing with difficult neighbors can be tough, but you should always approach situations with care to ensure that you are part of the solution, not the problem.
6. Know the regulations.
If your neighbor’s actions are bothering you, it’s acceptable to approach them about it; however, if they are not breaking any laws or community rules, you need to consider the outcome that they don’t have to work with you. This is why it’s a good idea to be knowledgeable about the guidelines for the most common neighbor complaints: animals, noise, and trash.
7. Consider mediation before calling the police.
While an anonymous tip off about a too loud party is usually okay, you should think twice about involving the police in more complicated disputes, as law enforcement’s presence quickly escalates the problem. Instead, see if your neighbor will agree to professional mediation services if you are unable to reach a solution on your own. This way, a neutral third party can help you sort things out.
As always, we are here to help you find your dream home, wonderful neighbors included. Please contact us today!